If you’ve been around long enough, you’ve undoubtedly experienced the pain of a breakup. Whether you’re the one who ended the relationship or you’re on the receiving end of unrequited love, the end of romance with another is never an easy task.
Your heart, undoubtedly shattered into a million pieces, might seem like it is next to impossible to pick up, dust off, and breathe new life into. And that’s understandably so, for there are few things in life that hurt as deeply as emotional pain from the end of romantic love.
I’ve had my fair share of broken hearts during my time in this body and with this heart, but it wasn’t until the last one that I utilized cord cutting to assist me with my healing process. I can only imagine how much easier my previous heart breaks might have been if I had utilized this process in the past.
Cord cutting refers to the cutting of energetic cords that exist between two people.
Everyone has energy cords they share with others and our largest, most powerful cords exist between those we love the most. An energy cord both gives and receives energy. A healthy cord will supply you with a wealth of positive energy while you simultaneously supply your partner with a wealth of positive energy. Even when there are challenges within the relationship, a healthy cord will remain strong and flowing.
When a relationship ends and the cord is not severed, it will continue flowing energy back and forth between you and your ex partner. While there is always a grieving process to experience at the end of a relationship, an intact cord can make the grieving process drag on for longer than really necessary, or, in some cases, not end at all.
The reason for this is because there are still plenty of memories and the energy of love flowing back and forth between the cord, often for both parties to feel. While some will ignore this better than others and allow themselves to move on, for those who are more sensitive to energy, this can feel extremely overwhelming.
You might feel it every time your partner thinks about you, or mourns the loss of the relationship. You might feel a strong pull, almost like a magnet, back towards your partner. You might be overcome with memories, thoughts, or dreams about your partner.
While it is certainly nice to keep some beautiful memories in your heart forever, you don’t need them popping in while you’re in the middle of a business meeting or on a date with someone new. And, your ex-partner doesn’t need them either. The longer you each keep the cord connected, the longer your process of letting go.
Severing the energy cord between you and your partner is the best way to allow yourself to feel, deal, heal, and move on from the old relationship.
Cutting an energy cord with an ex is best when you:
Got broken up with and are having a hard time letting go
Had to end the relationship before you really wanted to (for example, if you caught your ex cheating)
Know that ending the relationship is in your best interest, but you find it to be extremely difficult
When your ex has moved on and you’re still struggling to do so
By cutting the energy cord between the two of you, you’ll find it easier to:
Process the end of the relationship as having a definitive end (no more on again, off again dynamic)
Process your feelings about the relationship as a whole
View the entirety of the relationship and the wisdom that comes from hindsight and understand the role the partnership played in your life
Move on with your life, whether happily single or re-entering the dating world
Cutting an energy cord between you and your ex does not mean you get to skip past all of the heavy heartbreak emotions that inevitably come up post break up (sorry, but those are really important). But it does mean you’re far less likely to be parking yourself on the couch for months on end with your besties Ben & Jerry. The healing process of a breakup with a cord cutting is often a much faster and cleaner break. (No promises though. Every single relationship is it’s own entity and as such, will have a different dynamic that needs to be healed post break up. In general however, you can expect this to be the case).
If you know this is truly the end between you and your ex, and you’d like to move past the pain and into the space of gratitude and empowerment, try cord cutting here: How to Cut an Energy Cord After a Breakup.
May your journey be filled with as much peace, love, and goodness as you can possibly endure.
~ Erica
Hi, I’m Erica
When I’m not giving Reiki sessions or teaching yoga or meditation, I’m usually somewhere in nature.
Here’s me at a waterfall in Helgafellssveit, Iceland.
I’m happy you found your way here. I hope you live the most peaceful, most fulfilling, and most authentic life possible, always.